MY NAME IS LORD MARIA

I am a lifestyle dominatrix.

It began a few years ago with a simple request from a middle-aged man: “I will clean your home, run your errands, and give you $500 per month. You can be as nice or mean to me as you desire.”

A man looking to give for nothing in return, who I can treat however I please? So began my foray into lifestyle domination, and eventually, the world of content creation.

 
 

But first, what is lifestyle domination?

You know what a dominatrix is. Perhaps, you’ve even had sessions with one. But there are conceptual differences between professional and lifestyle dominatrixes.

While they have shared interests in dominating and owning submissives, they differ in the degree to which they incorporate submissives into their daily lives, and the extent to which they curate an experience for the subs. Typically, pro-Dommes compartmentalize their professional lives from their vanilla lives. Subs must request a Domme’s time, and pay a predetermined rate to play with her. In the professional realm, subs are akin to clients, and pro-Dommes curate an experience based on the interests and limits of each sub.

In lifestyle domination the lines between daily life and servitude are blurred. Subs often inhabit an intimate place in a lifestyle Domme’s life, most commonly behaving as a servant in the private confines of her home. Often, these relationships begin as romantic partnerships and evolve into a female-led relationship (FLR) where the man becomes submissive to his girlfriend/wife. Unlike the experience of a sub paying for a professional session, lifestyle Dommes are less invested in curating an experience to satiate the needs of the submissive, but rather expect the submissive to bend to her own needs and kinky desires.

Professional and lifestyle Dommes overlap in that they often draw from both modes of domination. Some professional Dommes keep submissives on the side to run errands, or are even in FLRs at home. Likewise, some lifestyle Dommes offer paid sessions to subs outside of their inner circle. This is why the categorical distinction between pro and lifestyle Domme is sometimes fuzzy. Pay attention to whether a Domme markets herself as a pro or lifestyle Domme, as this will usually indicate which mode of domination she leans into most.

A common misconception is that professional domination involves an exchange of money for service whereas lifestyle domination does not. Money is very common in lifestyle domination, especially to full-time dynamics where financial domination is integral.

Even among those who practice part-time or don’t partake in financial domination, lifestyle subs are often responsible for covering many expenses, buying gifts, and giving regular tributes. In this way, the financial exchange between a Domme and a sub in a lifestyle setting still exists, but is less quid pro quo than the overtly transactional exchange of professional domination.

All said, if you think lifestyle domination is your ticket to free or inexpensive domination, you’re going to be sorely disappointed as lifestyle Dommes tend to be very financially demanding and often cost much more to serve in the long-run.

Now, back to me.

How did I get into this lifestyle?

While most lifestyle Dommes have their entrée into this world through romantic relationships, my origin story is a bit different. A few years ago, I was contacted by a submissive who was seeking a young woman who may be interested in this lifestyle. He offered to clean my home, run my errands, chauffeur me, cover the cost of groceries, and give me a monthly cash tribute of $500. He also told me I could be as mean or as nice to him as I desired. Already well-versed in the realm of kink and sexuality, and having long been dominant over men in my life, I was familiar with what he was looking for and very interested to try. The offer was all the more alluring given he had 20-years of experience and would require little training.

The dynamic began as expected, where he’d come over once a week to clean and I’d send him scurrying around the city to run my errands like a little bitch. It evolved into me lending him out to my friends for service and entertainment, and using him as a cuckold on my dates with other men. I’d make him take me travelling so I could be properly served wherever I went, and I’d often bring my friends or boyfriends along (always on his dime, of course). I also outsourced much of my own work to him, which meant I could double the pace at which my vanilla career was growing.

As a married man and father, his life with me was a necessary secret. I still made sure to permeate all aspects of his life so he could not escape my presence even when he was in the safe confines of his home. I had him locked in chastity and on a very stringent regime involving religious worship, diet, and exercise protocols. During the summers when his kids were out of school, he would take extensive “work trips” where he’d reside at my home sleeping on my floor like a dog.

As he was serving me, I’d acquire new submissives in order to build a rich network of subs who could pander to every one of my needs and desires. With covid, his servitude to me has decreased substantially as remote work makes it difficult to safely maintain a discreet second life. But I continue to keep building my empire of submissives, as I see no purpose in having a life that doesn’t draw from the skills and energies of submissive men.

If my story catches your interest, I encourage you to watch my interview with my friend and fellow Lifestyle Dominatrix, Mistress Blunt.

 

Let’s get kinky.

I engage in a wide variety of BDSM practices, and my favourites tend to shift with time and experience. At this moment, my top kinks are:

  • Cuckolding

  • Pegging

  • Humiliation

  • Chastity

  • Domestic servitude

  • Foot/body worship

  • Financial domination

  • Psychological domination

I am also deeply interested in:

  • Restraint/bondage

  • Pet play

  • Sissification

  • Tease & denial

  • JOI/CEI

  • CBT/ballbusting

  • Corporal punishment

  • Public humiliation

  • Total power exchange

  • Gentle femdom

  • Female-Led Relationships (FLR)

I have no interest in:

  • Raceplay

  • Ageplay

  • Blood/scat

  • Brat taming

On content creation.

Do you want a peek into my lifestyle?

A few years ago, I made the move from dominating subs quietly in the background of my life to documenting my interactions for the world to see.

I also make femdom POV/solo clips that tap into my favourite kinks and allow my followers to dive a bit deeper into my mindfuckery.

Lucky you!

You can find all the information about where to find my content here.

FAQ

Do you ship worn items internationally?

Yes. Click here for more information about how to get these items for worship.

Do you do custom content?

Yes, you can order custom clips here.

Do you have a wishlist I can purchase you gifts from?

Glad you asked. You can find it here.

Do you accept CashApp, Venmo, or Paypal?

No, but you can find all of my tribute methods here.

I want to contact you, but I can’t subscribe to sites like OnlyFans for discretion purposes. How can we connect?

Follow the tribute protocols and e-mail me instead.

How can I become the best sub for you?

Study my content sites. Tribute frequently. Anticipate my needs. Send me surprise gifts. Don’t be needy.

Can I be your film slave?

No.

Do you ever visit my country/city?

Maybe! I travel extensively. Follow me on X to see what I’m up to.

How come you don’t show your face?

Because you’re not worthy of seeing it. Next question.

What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done to a sub?

Go find out on my fansite, or tribute to ask.

Do I need to be wealthy to serve or be trained by you?

No, but you need to have expendable income and not be weird about spending it.

I am not into sending tributes, but I promise I’ll be the most eager and obedient sub. Please, Goddess, may I serve you without tributing?

There is one of me and thousands of you. I only serve and train those who respect my time. Move along.